DOMESTIC VIOLENCE

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Domestic violence is one of the social vices the world is dealing with today and in as much as all possible measures have been put in place to curtail its excesses, the number of victims keep rising nevertheless. 

 An important thing to note, however, is that most of these things stem from the family. The mentality drilled into a child right from conception goes a long in shaping that particular child's entire life. It is just like an expectant mother always reading bedtime stories to the child in her womb. He/she would most likely love to read. Same goes for a child whose parents continuously fights in the home. A large part of his/ her subconscious would be formed on this basis.  

It is not enough to mention family as the sole factor that enhances domestic violence as there are other numerous factors such as the environment, movies to mention just a few.

Speaking of movies, I think I am delighted at the current change in the movie industry. Yes, a lot of changes have been made. While I was away, I was mostly preoccupied with watching movies and thankfully, majority of it centered on domestic violence. A particular one that caught my attention was Emi Mi (my spirit). The husband turned to a beast entirely after marriage with a strong patriarchy mentality that the "woman" is his property thus, she has no right to live: no association, no career, no access to social media and all of that. 

 Furthermore, the little child was not spared. The father continuously drilled into him that women does not have sense and the only way to instill sense into them was by beating them. 

However, there was a change in the narrative. Naturally, the popular wave is that the child has no right to meddle in the affairs of his parents but in this particular one, he was the catalyst that spurred his mother into moving out of the house. He would block his father from beating his mother and sometimes, go as far as biting his father just so to free his mother. I do not know if you get the twist. 

 Likewise, for the second movie, which I do not presently remember the title, centers around a career lady whose husband continually beats her. To cut the long story short, she moved out of the house despite the husband's pleading. This is the twist. The movie narrative we all grew up to acknowledge is that it's either the woman/man, as the case may be, stays in there because of what people would say or in worst case scenario dies in that abusive relationship. But that is changing. It is better to move out and be alive than stay and die.

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In addition, domestic violence is not limited to just women. Men, children, teenagers get abused too. In fact you are subject to abuse so far you are human. Nonetheless, my resolution is this. Do not stay or endure domestic violence no matter the reason. An abuser would always be an abuser. Your life is more important than what people would say. Save that first! 

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Until we meet again, take care of yourself, 
Mobola.